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Top 10 Things You Can Do Today to Be More Engaged

The intent of engagement is to make people feel seen and instill confidence that you care enough to prioritize them over anything else you could be doing at that moment. The outcome of making people feel seen is deeper connections. Deeper connections lead to trust and trust is a foundational element for achieving lots of other shared goals professionally or personally. Become someone others can trust. Here are 10 things you can do today to be more engaged and three challenges you will face in that engagement.

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Good Leadership vs. Bad Leadership: Lessons From the Mountains

On a recent trip, my wife and I visited Phoenix, Arizona, and Denver, Colorado—two cities with mountains yet vastly different experiences. Phoenix’s mountains are harsh, rugged, and exposed; they demand endurance in a challenging, dry heat. Denver’s Rockies, however, are lush, inviting, and revitalizing, offering cool air, shaded paths, and breathtaking vistas.

Leadership mirrors this duality. The basic definition of leadership is guiding a group to achieve a goal, but the lived experience can vary dramatically. Some leaders create harsh environments where team members merely endure, much like a scorching hike up Phoenix’s mountains. Others foster nurturing environments reminiscent of Denver’s Rockies, challenging yet supportive, driving growth and collective achievement.

The critical difference between these leadership experiences hinges on two beliefs:

  • Job Purpose: Effective leaders view their role as serving and empowering others.

  • Success Definition: They measure success through collective growth and team achievements.

To consistently foster this empowering environment, adopt the GENUINE Leadership Model, embracing principles of Generosity, Engagement, Niceness, Unafraid action, Integrity, Non-Judgmental attitudes, and Empathy. Leaders embodying these traits build teams that thrive, creating energizing and productive workplaces.

Ultimately, just as mountains offer profoundly different experiences despite similar definitions, leadership's impact depends heavily on the beliefs and actions of the leader. Choose intentionally, and you’ll create an environment that empowers and inspires your team to reach new heights.

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Do People Love You for Who You Are or What You Do? How to Build Relationships With Joy that Lasts

Discover how to build authentic relationships by embracing who you truly are. This article explores why meaningful emotional connection starts with courage, humility, and integrity. Learn how being your true self—not just what you do for others—leads to deeper love, stronger connections, and lasting personal growth. If you're tired of people-pleasing and ready to be seen and loved for who you are, this guide offers practical steps, powerful insights, and biblical encouragement to help you build genuine relationships that last.

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Things I learned about personal boundaries from cattle

Boundaries are helpful for healthy relationships and safe cattle farming. Be sure to establish, communicate, and maintain your boundaries, so they achieve their intended objective. Remember, if your boundaries are too strong, you will eventually keep everyone out. The goal of boundaries isn’t to keep people out; it is to maintain health and mutually beneficial relationships. #personalboundaries #healthrelationships #farmlife #personalleadership

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Dating as a series of healthy experiments not as wins and loses

In a perfect world, you wouldn’t need to run any kind of experiments. It would be a world without regret. You would already know everything necessary to have an amazing lasting relationship. But the world isn’t perfect. Intentional experiments are how you learn to thrive in romantic relationships while enjoying the journey. #relationships #datingexperiments #healthyrelationships

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Addressing difficult subjects in your relationships

The goal of sharing truth or engaging in conflict with someone in your personal community should be to improve the relationship and encourage the other person to consider if a change is best for them and your relationship.

This type of honest dialogue, when done appropriately, creates deep connection. Deep connection creates long term mutually beneficial relationships capable of withstanding difficulty.

Follow this model to help you improve the quality of your interactions over subjects that might cause conflict.

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