GENUINE Holiday Guide
How to Be More GENUINE This Holiday Season
During a time when many families feel the effects of a growing relational recession, small moments of presence, empathy, and kindness can transform the entire holiday. Use this guide to shape how you act, speak, ask questions, and think as you gather.
GENEROSITY
ENGAGEMENT
KINDNESS
COURAGE
INTEGRITY
NON-JUDGMENT
EMPATHY
Seven Ways to Lead With GENUINE Presence
Generous
Give Freely
Do
Offer help early, share food, and bring quieter voices into the group.
Say
“I can do that.” • “You go first.”
Ask
“What would make today easier for you?”
Think
Generosity is often about attention, not gifts.
Engaged
Be Present
Do
Lower your phone, look people in the eye, and listen fully.
Say
“Tell me more—I'm here.”
Ask
“What was a meaningful moment from this year?”
Think
Attention is the strongest signal of value.
Kind
Soft Edges
Do
Use a warm tone, encourage others, and notice the good in people.
Say
“I’m really glad you’re here.”
Ask
“What’s something that made you smile this month?”
Think
Kindness strengthens connection instantly.
Unafraid
Courage
Do
Resolve tension quietly and have honest conversations when needed.
Say
“Can we talk later, just us?”
Ask
“Are we okay?” • “How can we reset?”
Think
Courage protects relationships.
Integrity
Wholeness
Do
Show up as your real self. Follow through. Honor meaningful traditions.
Say
“Here’s what I can actually do.”
Ask
“What traditions matter most to you this year?”
Think
Integrity is showing up the same way in every room.
Non-Judgmental
Curiosity
Do
Let people be who they are. Listen before reacting.
Say
“I can see where you're coming from.”
Ask
“Help me understand your perspective?”
Think
Curiosity connects faster than correction.
Empathetic
Understanding
Do
Notice who seems quiet or stressed. Offer gentle support.
Say
“Thanks for sharing that. I know that wasn’t easy.”
Ask
“How are you doing, really?”
Think
Everyone at the table has a story you don’t know.